Love, Life & Other Mysteries

Tuesday, September 27, 2005

Anonymous Answer

An anonymous commenter said that I would find it hard to settle with a life partner if I continued with my world view of men i.e 'Men are like shoes...the ones you fall for aren't always the ones you can live with'. I'm not saying that I hold true to the saying...but it is in some sense, true...the ones you fall in love with aren't necessarily the ones you end up with in the end. You could have fallen for them because of their looks or something but in the end, they turn out to be the opposite of what you expected of them. That's all I'm saying. But ladies, do not be discouraged to think that every man is like that, I still believe that there is someone for everyone.
As for pressing on...well, my dear anonymous commenter, I am pressing on and I am doing my best to be obedient to Him who created me. I know He has the best in store for my future and I'm gonna wait...


Friday, September 23, 2005

Cuci Mata Object

Ok, I have been holding on to this for a little too long....eversince my heart was broken for I don't know how many times, I promised myself that I would not let the opposite sex get the better of me. Well...once again, here I am, can't help thinking about how attracted I am to this male specimen in the office. Let's just call him my 'Cuci Mata Object'.

According to Cynthia, he's very nice. Here's the best part, she's only met him once! can you tell???

Here's what I know...he's an Account Director, drives a BMW and is a Chindian....yes...Andrea's dream come true. He not only drives her favourite car but also happens to have mixed heritage like her.

But though I think he's hell of a sexy...I've only spoken to him in total...ONCE! heard me...only once. When? Today...Was it about work? was about where my colleague was...Sigh...

Here's the thing that I've concluded, it's not gonna happen. Maybe you think I'm being a pessimist, but hey...that's the reality of it...'Men are like shoes. The ones you fall for aren't always the ones you can live with.' But I guess there's no harm in day dreaming right...


Wednesday, September 21, 2005

He's Just Not Into You

On Saturday morning, with nothing much to do, I had my breakfast in front of the newspapers. What a beautiful chance that I stumbled upon the article on the 'Into You' issue.
Greg Behrendt and Liz Tucillo came up with this marvelous book about men and how to read the signs of whether or not they're into us. The book itself, I think, sparked the issue in Sex and The City where Jack Berger, simply told Miranda, after she gave the highlight of her date, that the guy was just not into her. It was that simple.
At first, it was quite hard for me to stomach but Jack Berger made it easy by saying that men in general, are easy to read and that there was no 'what if's'. It was either one or the other. Simple as that.
Well, I put that thought out a long time ago and have spent quite a bit of my time analizing with my girls about men and why they do what they do. And now, this article comes along. This must be a sign!!
I won't go into detail what the article covered on the book, but I'll just give the highlights of book that was in given in point form.
* He's not asking you out
* He's not calling you
* He's not dating you
* He's having sex with someone else
* He only wants to see you when he's drunk
* He doesn't want to marry you
* He's breaking up with you
* He's disappeared on you
* He's married
* He's being a bully, a selfish jerk or a really big freak

....The he's just not into you

My personal favourite...'He's disappeared on you'. Sounds very familiar to me. Reading the tips again, it somehow seemed so much easier for me to accept it. It was plain and simple but spoke a point...He's just not into me. That's it. I've spent so much time rumnating on the issue...but now it just seems so easy...He's just not into me.
** Tips were courtesy of The Star from the book He's Just Not Into You by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tucillo.


Tuesday, September 13, 2005


I'm feeling uncertainty and anxiety and I can't pin point what exactly is bothering me. There are so many issues arising at this point in time and I don't know which one of them is bugging most.
Lord, help me find peace...


Monday, September 12, 2005

Wish List (Revised)

Hi Y'all...Here's a revised version of my wish list *big grin with teeth showing*

1) The Orange Girl by Jostein Gaarder

1) Eric Clapton - any album will do
2) Mariah Carey - The Emancipation of Mimi
3) Simply Red - Best of Simply Red
4) Liang's debut album (must support friend and support your local artists)

1) Sex and the City (Season 4 -6) -Thank you Patience, for getting me season 3.

1) Belly Studs
2) Earrings
3) Necklaces
* Do know my taste before purchasing *Big Grin*

Money Vouchers (money lah...)
For bags, shoes and clothes

Personal Cravings
1) Bailey's
2) Davidoff'c Cool Water for women
3) Sarah Jessica Parker's new perfume 'Lovely'

You all know who...but thats I won't hold it againts you

Ok, that's it. Back to work for me! Ta!


Tuesday, September 06, 2005

Wish List

Birthday's coming up next month and I'll be one year closer to what they call 'quarter-life crisis'...that's if you believe in it. I'm growing older...but that's ok, as long as I'm growing wiser in some way when it comes to the story of life.
I'm not gonna rattle on about growing old. The reason for the insertion of this blog is for my friends who are cracking their brains as to what to get me this year. Well, crack your brains no more for I've come up with my wish list and it's nothing impossible. Here goes....

1) The Orange Girl by Jostein Gaarder

1) Eric Clapton - any album will do
2) Mariah Carey - Emancipation of Mimi
3) Simply Red - Best of Simply Red

1) Sex and The City - Season 3 - 6 (*Hint: doens't have to be the original box set....but you didn't
hear it from me....SUPPORT ORIGINALS!) hehehehehee...*BIG SMILE*

1) Belly studs (for my navel piercing) - please make sure its surgical steel...nice ones k....
2) Earrings (if you know my taste)
3) Necklaces (Again, only buy it if you know my taste)

Money Vouchers (money la...) *BIG SMILE*
1) for shoes
2) for clothes
3) for bags

Personal Cravings
1) A bottle of Bailey's
2) Davidoff's Coolwater for women

1) .............. I think you all know who, but thats impossible, so I won't hold you against it *SMILE*

Well folks, thats the list for this year. Trust me, get me anything from this list and you can be sure I'll definitely like it. But before buying, try and consult with each other so that there are no duplicates *BIG BIG GRIN WITH TEETH SHOWING*


Monday, September 05, 2005

Seeing 'Him'

Just as I thought that I would get through my rough patch this weekend, knowing full well that God is in charge, "it" had to happen.
I was having lunch at Nando's on Sunday with my friends...I was happy and I wasn't distracted at all...just tired. But being the person that I am, I tend to look around even while eating...and there 'he' was...
I didn't wanna believe that it was Jack In The Box but it was. Put on a bit of weight but still the same...still looking like the teddy bear he used to be. I sat there just staring at him, not knwing if I should get up and walk over to say hi or just continue to sit where I was. I did the latter in the end. He didn't look my way...I half expected a girl to appear from nowhere but no...he was alone, with his dad.
That image of him standing there, haunted me for the rest of lunch and the rest of the day. I've always wondered how I would react when I did see him. I thought I would appear to be confident of myself and that I would not feel anything...But I did. I had mixed emotion and my insides tied in knots. I longed for him to pass by again or for me to bump into him.
Breakdance class just seemed like a chore after that because my mind was just haunted by him over and over again. I won't look back at the past...but seeing him made me think of us again.
To Jack In The Box, I do hope you are well and seeing you yesterday, reminded me that at the end of the day, you have a special place in my heart.


Thursday, September 01, 2005


The more I think about it, the more I think that Jack In The Box is a coward!
Please explain my anger? Well, from the start, he never wanted to let me know how he felt about me. I had to beat it out of him. The we break up and he doesn't even fight for me, he just lets me go. A year later, we're back in this circle and I'm not the one who ran away, he did. He went missing in action, never told me anything and assumed I would be fine. Obviously, I had to move on. And then he comes back again and it's the same thing all over again! After saying that he's still in love with me, he disappears again! This time, I am not at fault at all....I was willing to stay put with him....but wasn't enough for him! And he doesn't even have the guts to tell me!!!
The more I think about it, the more I really think that the Jack In The Box that I knew is not the same one I know now. He's become a coward...afraid of commitment...just plain afraid...
I was willing to stand by him...but he just gave it up!!! The more I think about it, the more I feel hurt....the more I feel taken for granted...
Why did you give it up????!!!!!! WHY????